CONFLICT RESOLUTION COURSE for parents and professionals


Saturday, 22. September 2018, from 9h till 17h, and

Sunday, 23. September 2018, from 9h till 16h


Security, coping and understanding conflict

Family harmony is often disrupted by conflicts between parents and children, or between children themselves. This happens in most families, whether the children are toddlers, teens, or in between.

All parents should expect some conflict in their relationships with their children, and these conflicts can sometimes be quite heated. Even very heated. When this happens often it can create feelings of stress, anger, insecurity, confusion and for some hopelessness.

This course teaches parents the communication skills they need to reduce the frequency and intensity of the disagreements that are bound to occur in any family. And to turn stressful conflicts into opportunities for learning, as well as increase experience of trust, security and competence.

When you can keep your family on an even keel — with everybody feeling secure and united — you, the parents, will be better situated to focus on your child’s emotional and social development.

Another benefit of this course is that when both parents learn the skills of developmentally oriented conflict management it helps them improve communication and cooperation between each other.

You will learn to:

  • Be more effective at preventing and resolving conflict.
  • Be confident about what limits to set and how to set them.
  • Be a more empathetic and understanding parent while also being a responsible leader.
  • Ensure that your child feels understood and accepted and has coping skills for dealing with their emotions positively.
  • Help your child develop their social skills.
  • Deal with problems without resorting to punishment, bribery, or ignoring the issue.
  • Ensure positive outcomes from conflict – for your child, yourself, your relationship with your partner, and the entire family.
  • Everyday situations and examples

In the course, we focus on the everyday situations that have the potential to lead to conflict in any family. You will learn the communication and conflict management skills you need to handle large and small disagreements between you and your children. And more importantly, you will learn how to deal with conflicts in a way that better support your childrens social, emotional, and intellectual development.

The material you will learn in this course applies to all types of conflict situations. We use examples from typical family conflict situations that can range from mundane to quite concerning, including:

  • Clothing choices
  • Meals and food
  • Going to the store
  • Dropping off and picking up at kindergarden
  • Getting kids out of bed in the morning
  • Disagreements and conflicts between children
  • Temper tantrums or children who are extremely upset
  • A child who is behaving destructively or threateningly
  • A child who is being physically violent (hitting, biting etc.)

In this course you will learn that there are alternatives to reward and punishment. The methodology is based on scientifically documented principles about motivation, learning, and relationships, as well as social, emotional, and moral development.

Older children

Although the analogies used in the course are primarily based on interactions with young children, the concepts taught are highly relevant to parents of older children and teens as well.



How is the course laid out?
The course is scheduled for 2 days: Saturday from 9h till 17h, and Sunday from 9h till 16h). Learning activities will be focused on concrete and practical ideas and skills you can learn to use in your everyday life. You will learn these ideas and skills trough presentations, examples, demonstrations as well as exercises. In addition you will receive extensive written course materials.

Conflicts with my child are not always ordinary. My child sometimes becomes angry enough to hit, kick, bite, scream, throw things, run away and so on. Will this course help me?
Yes. As a matter of fact, an important goal of the course is to teach how to deal with these types of situations. These type of things happens in more families than you might think. We discuss in detail how to prevent such escalations, as well as how to manage the situation when your attempts at prevention are unsuccessful. We also put special emphasis on how to create more long term learning from situations like these.

Can I ask questions about my personal situation during the course?
Absolutely. For the most part we answer individual questions about particular situations towards the end of the course. This is to ensure that everyone has a basic understanding of the practical ideas presented before we go into specific answers on individual situations, which make answering questions much more effective and easier to understand for the participants.

Who is this course for?
This course is relevant for all parents, but many of the examples used during the course will be based on parents of children aged two to six. The course is also very helpful to daycare and kindergarten employees as well as other professionals who work with children and parents.
People with older children, people expecting their first, second, third or more child – and even people with no children in their lives – have taken this course with great benefit. Actually, anybody who wants to learn about conflict management can pick up a lot of wisdom from this course.

The conflicts in our family are primarily between the children themselves, not so much between us (the parents) and our children. Will this course help us?
This course was designed primarily to help people understand and handle adult-child conflict, but we address child-child conflict as well, especially when asked about this. Being able to constructively manage adult-child conflict is a prerequisite to being able to manage conflicts between children.


Here are some of the topics we explore in the course:

  • What you can do to prevent conflict.
  • How to use empathy and active listening skills to resolve disputes quickly and to calm children who are angry, tired, or experiencing difficulty (without relaxing limits and boundaries).
  • How to make better decisions regarding limits and boundaries, also taking the childs integrity and point of view into account.
  • Different ways of saying “no” and when and how to use them most effectively.
  • The really tough stuff: how to take responsibility for your own role in a conflict situation that ended negatively; how you can, over time, improve parent-child conflict resolution; how to repair breaches of trust caused by parent-child conflict.
  • The nonverbal elements of communication.
  • How using these principles can make setting boundaries easier for you and more constructive for your children.
  • How using these principles can help your child learn social skills, to set boundaries themselves, and to recognize and respect the boundaries set by others.



“We picked up effective and useful tools for preventing and managing conflicts.”
– Hanna and Ivar

“We finally feel sure that we are doing the right thing for our child.”
– Anne and Sigurd

“After taking this course, I feel more confident in conflict situations.”
– Hege Obrestad

“We highly recommend this course for anybody who has strong-willed children.”
– no name here

“Thank you for this wonderful course. It is one of the most useful courses I have ever taken.”
– no name here

“Good concrete examples and solutions.”
– no name here

“It’s brilliant. At home, our little miss ‘helps us’ with daily chores and we have reduced our crisis level to practically zero. This course should be mandatory for all parents!”
– Peder

“This course was very helpful to us. We have a lot less conflict now and the ones we do have are resolved easily and quickly. And thanks for offering it at an affordable price!”
– Anne Gry Venås

“This course gave me some big aha moments! Every parent should take this parenting course! Now that I understand my child and don’t just view him as ‘difficult’ I am much more patient.”
– no name here


The course is led by:

Hans Holter Solhjell, the longstanding leader of Familylab Norway, lecturer, trainer, coach and counsellor.

Hans has been training courses for parents and professionals since 2006. Before that he completed a major subject in pedagogy at PFI, Pedagogical Research Institute at UIOand also worked a period at the Oslo Police College where he taught psychology. For the past 25 years he has been actively involved in self-development and focused on learning and change processes, body-oriented methods, communication and conflict management, etc. He is also trained in the Feldenkrais method, in Communication, and in the Sounder Sleep System and has taken an education in SE, Somatic Experiencing, and instructor training and is also certified as Trainer in TRE, Trauma Release Exercises.

Daily, he counsells and holds courses for parents, kindergartens and schools, and also works with body-oriented trauma therapy, learning and development processes.

The seminar will be held in English without translation.



155 € – earlybird price till 10. 9. 2018
185 € – full price per person after 10. 9. 2018
270 € – price per couple
135 € – price for members of  FL parenting club


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